How To Calm Toddler Tantrums, Teach Them Self-Regulation And Help Their Brain Develop Without Time Out or Punishment
CALM THE TANTRUMS
Are you ready to stop feeling frustrated, and start feeling empowered as you know exactly how to help your kid in tantrum?
When my daughter was going through the terrible twos, I received a lot of different advice from friends and family. It was hard to know which was right and which was good.
My background is in Electrical Engineering and Business Management. I decided to solve this problem in my own nerdy way… I set out to study the science of parenting.
Then I found out something surprising…
When my child throws a tantrum, she’s not giving me a hard time. She is having a hard time.
Instead of having someone yelling at her or punishing her, what she needed was someone to help her.
When there’s a screaming child in front of you, it’s hard to keep things in perspective. But I’ve learned to regulate myself, because if I could not regulate myself, how could I expect a toddler to do it?
So I came up with solutions that work.
When you recognize that in a tantrum, it’s the brain being over-reactive and not the child being defiant, you can help your child calm down in a clear head.
Now, every time my child throws a tantrum, I see it as a brain-sculpting opportunity. It’s an opportunity to teach her self-regulating and coping skills.
My daughter has learned to recognize her emotions. She can name them and gradually calm herself. No punishment is ever needed.
We’re both calmer, happier and closer. We love spending time together and enjoy each other’s company. Even though she still has occasional meltdowns, because life is not perfect and there’re bound to be things that upset us, we know how to calm the tantrums and deal with the issues that upset her together.