without yelling, bribing or giving in
When my child was going through the terrible-twos, her temper tantrums could easily last for hours.
My toddler would cry over small things all day, every day.
Then it kept escalating until I started screaming right along her.
When I yelled, I felt like a bad mom.
I didn’t know what to do.
I felt so helpless.
I read parenting books. I tried everything the experts told me to do.
Still, nothing worked.
I couldn’t take her anywhere because she threw epic tantrums whenever she didn’t get her way…
It drove me crazy. I was at my wits end.
It was exhausting and defeating.
I received a lot of advice from friends and family.
They told me to ignore and punish my kid.
But from studying engineering at Stanford University, I know that a runaway car cannot stop on its own without a brake.
You wouldn’t ignore a runaway car and hope it would stop itself… or punish the driver for not using the nonexistent brake, right?
But that’s exactly what ignoring or punishing would do.
Babies are not born with a complete emotional brake.
Ignoring or punishing would not create a proper braking circuit.
So I came up with a solution based on scientific research and it worked.
I was finally able to stop the emotional runaway before it went rolling down the hill.
The reason why most parenting methods don’t work is because they work on the child’s behavior on the outside, but neglect what’s causing it on the inside.
It’s like stopping a runaway car from the outside… by putting up a brick wall for it to crash into.
A much better way is to disengage the engine and build a working brake from the inside.
When my child threw a tantrum, I helped her calm down and develop her emotional brake.
My daughter has learned to soothe and regulate herself.
We’re now both calmer and happier, and love spending time together.
We are closer than ever before.
In preschool, the teachers kept commenting how well behaved and delightful she was, and that she never had a tantrum there.
When she was in kindergarten, I even got a text from her teacher complimenting her emotional regulation ability.
If you’re struggling with toddler tantrums, I was exactly where you are.
I loved my child, but hated her tantrums.
I wanted to spend quality time with her, but the constant meltdowns made it so hard and so draining.
Her endless tantrums made me feel that there must be something wrong with my parenting, or something off with her.
If you’re feeling ANY of these, you’re not alone.
There is nothing wrong with you, or your child!
All you need is the right information so you can help your kid develop their emotional brake properly.
My boy can now tell me how he feels instead of throwing fits and screaming.
I love this book! I love the science based explanations and the strategies really work. I'm so happy I've stumbled upon this book.
... full of insightful advice. I was so discouraged and thougth I was a bad Mom. This book has changed my approach in parenting forever. Highly recommend to all parents.
I’m a mom, wife, bestselling author and the Editor-in-Chief of Parenting for Brain. I help parents restore happiness at home and kids reach their full potential using brain-science-based strategies.
This book is the result after poring over hundreds, if not thousands, of scientific studies when I was dealing with my daughter’s terrible twos tantrums. It is a follow-on to my first bestseller, Turning Tantrums Into Triumphs.
Join the thousands of parents who have used this strategy successfully and discover how science can help you create a happy home.
Li offers a fresh new perspective on tantrums and gives parents the tools to turn terrible-twos into valuable opportunities for a child to grow into a mature and resilient person. I highly recommend it.
This is a must-read book for parents of young children, or anyone likely to spend time around young children. Ms Li does an excellent job of summarizing, in clear and accessible language, the extensive literature on the neurobiology and psychology of human emotional development. She gives many practical tips on effective ways to manage these commonly challenging situations.
This kit will help you:
Enjoy spending every minute together with your toddler
My tantrum calming strategy is battle-tested and science-backed to be the best for toddler development.
But if this isn’t exactly what you need, go through the materials, really put some effort into it. If within 30 days, you don’t feel it is worth what you paid, just send me an email for a prompt refund.