How to Calm Toddler Tantrums

without yelling, bribing or giving in

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Are toddler tantrums making you miserable as a parent?

When my child was going through the terrible-twos, her temper tantrums could easily last for hours.

My toddler would cry over small things all day, every day.

Then it kept escalating until I started screaming right along her.

When I yelled, I felt like a bad mom.

I didn’t know what to do.

I felt so helpless.

I read parenting books. I tried everything the experts told me to do.

Still, nothing worked.

I couldn’t take her anywhere because she threw epic tantrums whenever she didn’t get her way…

It drove me crazy. I was at my wits end.

It was exhausting and defeating.

The REAL reason these methods don’t work…​

I received a lot of advice from friends and family.

They told me to ignore and punish my kid.

But from studying engineering at Stanford University, I know that a runaway car cannot stop on its own without a brake.

You wouldn’t ignore a runaway car and hope it would stop itself… or punish the driver for not using the nonexistent brake, right?

But that’s exactly what ignoring or punishing would do.

Babies are not born with a complete emotional brake.

Ignoring or punishing would not create a proper braking circuit.

So I came up with a solution based on scientific research and it worked.

I was finally able to stop the emotional runaway before it went rolling down the hill.

The reason why most parenting methods don’t work is because they work on the child’s behavior on the outside, but neglect what’s causing it on the inside.

It’s like stopping a runaway car from the outside… by putting up a brick wall for it to crash into.

A much better way is to disengage the engine and build a working brake from the inside.

When my child threw a tantrum, I helped her calm down and develop her emotional brake.

What People Are Saying

testimonial from Liliane Rokovic - It works. I have three children. I have used all sorts of techniques to manage tantrum. I have had the most success in tantrum situations with a hug. I've even done it smack dap in the middle of the grocery store I don't say anything I just scoop them up and hug them. The tantrum usually lasts about 30 seconds from that point. I have yet to have a hug resistance. I know it will happen but I am not looking forward to that day

My toddler went from having multiple tantrums every day to calming herself even when things didn't go her way.

Text from the teacher: I have to tell you how awesome your daughter is... she was so brave and calm, cool & collected.

My daughter has learned to soothe and regulate herself.

We’re now both calmer and happier, and love spending time together.

We are closer than ever before.

In preschool, the teachers kept commenting how well behaved and delightful she was, and that she never had a tantrum there.

When she was in kindergarten, I even got a text from her teacher complimenting her emotional regulation ability.

If you’re struggling with toddler tantrums, I was exactly where you are.

I loved my child, but hated her tantrums.

I wanted to spend quality time with her, but the constant meltdowns made it so hard and so draining.

Her endless tantrums made me feel that there must be something wrong with my parenting, or something off with her.

If you’re feeling ANY of these, you’re not alone.

There is nothing wrong with you, or your child!

All you need is the right information so you can help your kid develop their emotional brake properly.

What People Are Saying

Elise, parent - my boy can now tell me how he feels instead of throwing fits and screaming


Calm The Tantrums

A Step-by-Step Guide to Calming Toddler Tantrums

Calm the Tantrums book

What’s in this ebook:

  • The best way to calm toddler tantrums so you can stop the chaos which means you can confidently get through the terrible-twos

  • How to teach your child emotion regulation skills so they can learn to calm themselves which means shorter and fewer tantrums

  • Top 3 ways to prevent tantrums so you can cut down on meltdowns and enjoy more peace at home

  • How you can stay calm during tantrums so you don’t explode which means you will be a good role model for your child

What People Are Saying

eilisabeth K, parent - I love this book! I love the science based explanations and the strategies really work. I'm so happy I've stumbled upon this book.
Fiona C, Parent - full of insightful advice. I was so discouraged and thought I was a bad Mom. This book has changed my approach in parenting forever. Highly recommend to all parents.




I’m a mom, wife, bestselling author and the Editor-in-Chief of Parenting for Brain. I help parents restore happiness at home and kids reach their full potential using brain-science-based strategies.

This book is the result after poring over hundreds, if not thousands, of scientific studies when I was dealing with my daughter’s terrible twos tantrums. It is a follow-on to my first bestseller, Turning Tantrums Into Triumphs.

Join the thousands of parents who have used this strategy successfully and discover how science can help you create a happy home.

Yours sincerely,
Pamela Li


MS, Stanford University
MBA, Harvard University

What Experts Are Saying

GERALD PUK, phD, psychologist - Li offers a fresh new perspective on tantrums and gives parents the tools to turn terrible-two's into valuable opportunities for a child to grow into a mature and resilient person. I highly recommend it
Cynthia Kong, LMFT, LPCC, Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist and licenced professional clinical counselor - this is a must-read book for parents of young children, or anyone likely to spend time around young children. Ms Li does an excellent job of summarizing, in clear and accessible language, the extensive literature on the neurobiology and psychology of human emotional development. She gives many practical tips on effective ways to manage these commonly challenging situations


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This kit will help you:

  • Ask simple-choice questions to distract your child

  • Avoid making mistakes when dealing with a meltdown

  • Remember exactly what to do during a tantrum

  • Teach your child breathing and mindfulness techniques to strengthen emotional regulation

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What People Are Saying

Marna Raye McManus - this works. I have had to force hug my three year old a few times. He is usually about to throw something, he used to bang his head. I had to do something. It works with adults too, but most people don't let you hug them. I wish someone would forcehug me when I am having unresolved feelings of overwhelm
Brandy Landauer - yes this works! My hubby and I practice this with our toddler and we shocked his doctor at his 15 month appointment as we asked him to get in the scale and not to move until the doctor told him he could and he did exactly as we requested he listens about 85% of the time and we are pretty happy with that


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My tantrum calming strategy is battle-tested and science-backed to be the best for toddler development.

But IF this isn’t exactly what you need, go through the materials, really put some effort into it. If within 30 days, you don’t feel it is worth what you paid, just send me an email for a prompt refund.


Q. Who is this book for?
A. This ebook is for parents or caregivers of preschoolers or elementary school-aged children.

Q. Will this book help me if my child is very strong-willed?
A. Absolutely. Although every child is different, the process of brain development is similar for everyone. My strategy focuses on helping children develop the regulating circuit in their brains so they can control and manage those big emotions.

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A. We offer a 30-day money-back guarantee refund policy.

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